and you can presume as long as it helps the conversation flow; it’s more important to me that it ‘gets said’ rather than it’s ‘said right’
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I mean, don’t feel you have to hold back on what you say unless that’s what you want or what works for you. My presence shouldn’t modify anybody’s decisions in conversation
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[unless they want to; I’ve had to deal with this dilemma with nieces and nes through the years; They express freely and openly as kids do… and then I notice them practicing “holding back” on me. Suddenly they’ll clam up about some things in the middle of talking. I’ll encourage but I notice the firmness and resolve and they change the subject – and that’s when I realize they’re practicing their boundaries with others using me as a prop. So that’s a case where my prescence modifying someone’s decisions in conversation is ok – because it’s their free choice to do so
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