AltHill: The moment you start complaining about “kids today”, you’re already old and no longer in the forward push of culture and trapped in your golden years of glory.

AltHill: The moment you start complaining about “kids today”, you’re already old and no longer in the forward push of culture and trapped in your golden years of glory.

Aging never phased me. Well, once when I was 17 and again at 24. But that was it.

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Too nerdy for this group: I’m an uber nerd. I did an informal study 2 yrs ago on the phrase, “Acting like a ___ year old”.
 
Went through every age. Acting like a 3 yr old was most common by far, but there were results for EVERY age but one: 27.
 
Conclusion: 27 is plain old adult age. Nobody cares or minds or thinks about you when you’re 27. There’s no stereotype for it.
 
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=741797669588&set=a.520392731858.2028614.22701744&type=3
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  16 you can get a job. 18 you can vote, out of school, 21 drink like an old person.At that point, you’re a G R O W N U P. You could be some old schoolteacher.
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 You an be a schoolteacher by 21. To those kids, you’d be as ancient as any teacher.
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 That’s where you have to stop comparing yourself to your adolescent self. All age rewards are done. Next phase.
  In my 20s I remember women saying, “I’m 19 for the 3rd time!” “I’m 19 for the 7th time!”.It was dumb but whatever.
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  If you’re 30, you shouldn’t be going to high school house parties.
If you’re 21, you shouldn’t be going to high school house parties but definitely not 30.
Guy I went to school with was “crashing house parties” at 23. He thought he was young at 23. The 16 yr old girls at the party he tried to hit on knew he was a creep. (town gossip).Thankfully he grew out of it but I was sure he was gonna end up locked up somewhere.
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 That one hit me hard at 24. I was sitting at a beach with some friends. They were a couple, both 16, playing in the water. I was the driver basically and could get beer and “that it was wrong to sneak them beer sometimes” didn’t hit me yet.I felt OLD… and I was. Couldn’t figure out WHY though.That’s when it hit me: At 24, I was WAY too old to be a 16 yr old.It was a big adulting moment, a few years late but I got it..
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 The parents loved me and I was like a big brother. Helped them through rough times, they got married, a bunch of kids now etc – total Romeo/Juliet but good].Oh, I know what you mean with THAT. I was always the poor one, scholarship kid, both in high school and college. Couldn’t even afford to finish college, and this was WAY back in time.Friends all had more privileged backgrounds and I had to keep my mouth quiet most of the time. They couldn’t understand my background and I couldn’t really relate to theirs, so I just avoided those conversations.
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  I hated getting invited to $$ things. I always had to make an excuse. “We’re going skiiing”. “We’re going to $$ restaurant”. ugh.
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  Theoretical physics or developmental psychology. Didn’t stay long enough to figure it out though. Once the door shut, I couldn’t go back.I did some community in my late 20s (was going to be a special ed teacher) but the temp job I was at wanted me badly and made big offer. No regrets at life direction but it was all more random than planned.
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I went “furthest in family” so far. At job I didn’t want,, got overpaid (big pharma) learned stocks, saved 53% of income, got myself super credit, jumped ship after a few years, got mortgage for FL house for my mom, brother, sister + their families. Started a basic business to keep bro with income to help.Been a struggle but 15 yrs into it now, working from home. More me helping my mom with her dream than my own, but my dreams are simpler and I work on them through online.
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 I think it’s amazing that you’re doing what you’re doing and know you’ll do fantastic. Tenacity is a rare trait and it’s already taken you far. Grit. Nobody could ever claim you’re not tough to push through all that and hang on.
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  Thank you! That makes it all worthwhile hearing that – and I’m glad I’m not the only one that thought of this stuff. I think age stereotyping is fascinating. I wish it’d go away but ’til then I can at least try to understand it.
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I think late teens + 20s are probably the most unironically judgemental times for a lot of people.For a guy it’s not bad. Get called “kid” ’til you’re about 27, then it shifts to “sir or “mister”. I *think* it works similarly for women too, so i’ve heard anyway. After the initial culture shock (“oh no, I’m a grownup and they KNOW IT”) it’s good.

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  First times I called “Mister” and “Sir” I was about 27. It was weird. Happened a few times before I got used to it.
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