Oh I completely understand and relate entirely.
I’m a male who is the product of post-feminist America. I understand.
I wasn’t trying to bash men – but it’s the only group I can _autentically attempt_ to speak from… and yes, I was wrong in my approach and even many of my attempts at reasoning through it all.
But let’s speculate [if you’ll indulge my imagination here]:
Let us say that society was set up as such that male and female “power” was equal in all ways.
There was no longer discrimination against men in teaching roles.
There was no longer discrimination against women in policing roles.
Just two basic examples.
All that power differential is gone.
Understanding each other.
I was going to be a middle school teacher. Took child psych courses. Even started a children’s rights group on the Internet (1990-1997 it ran – I was 18 and thought I could change things. It got thousands of people on it).
But.. I didn’t pursue it teaching. Why? Stereotypes against single men in teaching roles. Rampant. Every word I spoke would have been judged with suspicious eyes. It was the era. Killed my dream.
So I understand discrimination.
But when I *do* attempt to stereotype, I only try to stereotype people within what could be considered “my group” (which would be men). I don’t mind getting it wrong. But I’ve never been a woman. Maybe there’s no difference. Maybe there is. But there’s no way for me to know entirely…
…unless I try to understand a perspective that is foreign to me.
Then maybe I get a right to say something. That’s my take anyway.