Agreement. There are many levels of agreement that are possible. Here are a few.

Agreement is an interesting phenomenon. There are many levels of agreement. Perhaps as a coping mechanism – I can find satisfaction in a limited set of agreements most of the time.

a) I have friends that don’t write in English at all – a number are Portuguese from an Orkut social-networking experiment I did several years ago, and they follow me around everywhere I go. A korean friend is the biggest challenge as the translators frankly suck for Korean, plus there are others.

Anyhow, we don’t have agreement on common language. We have to work through translators to communicate. So, I’m satisfied with communication that’s “close enough”. Agreement is actually easier in that case, because we both want to simply communicate _something_ and share an understanding and accepting a lesser form of agreement is automatic, as… again.. translators are great to have, but far from perfect.

b) Then there’s same language agreement. That’s when all sorts of agreements can happen. I may have to be satisfied with:
i. We’ve agreed on definitions.
ii. We’ve agreed that my intentions are good.
iii. We’ve agreed to debate
iv. We’ve agreed to stop debating.
v. We’ve agreed to a shared ‘air’ or ‘style’ of communication; an air of dry wit, or sarcasm, or absurdity, or logic, or aggressive, or friendly..
vi. We’ve agreed on certain points that we share.
vii. We’ve agreed that I’m wrong.
viii. We’ve agreed that I’m right.
ix. We’ve agreed that we’re both right.
x. We’ve agreed that we’re both wrong.

And the list can continue.

So for me, there’s any number of possible agreements that I can stop and be satisfied with. Successful communication occurred at some level of agreement. There is a handshaking protocol (to use the metaphor) and it was successful.

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