Advertisers need eyes. Shock gets eyes. Exposure numbs. Increase dosage. Advertisers get returns on investment.
Kids each figure it out as they dive in and start making their own videos. How to title for shock. What content gets views. How to navigate the horrid recommendation engine
My hope is numbness becomes a childhood phase to pass through and I think for most it is.
I’m genuinely (empathetic) sorry that it took a situation so drastic for you to start a change. I’m glad you did at all (you might never have), but I’m sorry your dad had to suffer for your lesson.
I know I’m lucky I got a head start on a change. Elementary school, 3rd grade, anti-stuttering lessons was my first time creating a “stop before responding” space in my head.
But that sense of constant assault is always there just the same. I have an arsenal of mental tools to work with to construct a just-functioning inner machine to process assaults in real time as best I can, holding that beast in its cage.
But it’s always there, noticing every manipulation.
My favorite superhero as a kid? Incredible Hulk. It’s the only one I could relate to.