How much does your thinking REALLY change over time? I don’t know about anybody else. But I came across an ANCIENT email I wrote on 26 Feb 1993 about Adult Power.
25.5 yrs ago.
Yet, despite all I’ve learned in the 25.5 yrs since writing this, and the 21 yrs of accumulated experience I had up to the time I wrote this, I don’t think I would change a SINGLE WORD.
Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1993 13:48:00 EDT
Well, Becky … … by the nature of the topics presented here, there will be those people who believe that children and teenagers should have the right to be controlled, and there will be those who believe that children and teenagers should have the right to exert control over their own lives.
Both opinions are valid topics for discussion, and I hope I don’t sound *too* biased.
Personally, I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place on this whole issue. That is one of the reasons I worked to get this group going 2 years ago or so. Part of me believes that, ideally, people, no matter what the age, should be able to exert at least *some* control over their lives. The other part of me believes that people need guidance.
In the end … there needs to be a merging of the two ideas. A situation where children and teenagers can have free reign over their lives, but with the occasional guiding hand of someone who can help, whether that’s an older child, teenager, or adult.
[back to 2018]
Only thing is: I don’t think I’m stuck. I was never stuck. I believe we are all responsible for each other to ensure we respect each other’s autonomy while caring enough to act when appropriate.
What’s appropriate? Whole complicated social systems try to answer that question.