https://www.truthaboutdeception.com/lying-and-deception/pros-and-cons-of-lying/benefits/truth-hurts.html A planet where you could just blurt out whatever crap’s on the the mind sounds kind of anarchistic and fun, but it’s the stuff of teenage boys hanging out together – and even THEY hold back to maintain friendships.
When I see it in adults, I just have to roll my eyes but sometimes I’ll say something if I think I can get an ear that will eventually hear my message.
People who “dish it” can’t usually take it and end up always on the defensive. Once you realize the ineffectiveness of “dishing it”, suddenly you no longer need to be on the defensive.
Once you take off the shields and the boxing gloves and realize not everybody plays in the sandbox of “offended / no offended”, there’s a whole new world of intellectual stimulation that includes such things as tact and diplomacy built-in. If someone is offended, it no longer matters: you address their points, not their offense. In fact, it becomes a situation where you don’t don’t see them as ‘offended': you see them as rational beings with points to make and you address those points rationally.
It’s freedom. Learning tact means you can now talk to everybody about anything.
You may disagree. You didn’t ask me to be your Aunt Mabel. But take it as you like.