*7 WAYS OF DEALING WITH AN ENEMY*
Follow each step until SUCCESS:
COMBINING STEPS IS: A GOOD THING.
a) AVOID: You are replacing yourself.
Let someone else deal with it.
Get someone to handle the problem INSTEAD OF you.
Say the magic words to the right person and it’s no longer your problem anymore. Monitor the situation on occasion if you’re curious if it worked, but really, it’s off your back, not your problem, you’re free to carry on with your life.
AKA: SUBSTITUTE, PROXY, REPLACEMENT YOU,
It may make you feel strong because you are not alone and have someone powerful to take your place completely.
Drawbacks: You might be considered a tattletale. If this is important to you to NOT be a tattletale, then this method is a FAIL for you. It doesn’t fit you, doesn’t suit your needs at all.
It also requires more than just you by yourself. You need an authority figure (someone ABOVE you and your enemies). Teacher, parent, police, lawyer, someone smarter than you, someone stronger than you (if you want them to fight).
You can also find someone who is just like you to replace you.
it may make you feel powerless and weak because you couldn’t handle it by yourself, If this is important to you, consider it a FAIL.
1) Find the right KIND of person to tell.
2) Find the right person to tell
3) Figure out the right words to say to make it happen
4) See if it works the way you want to, if not REPEAT step a), perhaps changing either the PERSON or KIND OF PERSON or WORDS you use. Or consider it a FAIL:
b) DUPLICATES: YOU + ANOTHER:
Get someone to handle the problem WITH you. The ”at least I’m not alone in this” answer. Share the effort, share the victory, share the failure. The ”army” of ”You and What army?”
c) Don’t care.
I don’t like you, love you, or hate you. I just don’t care about you. Do whatever you want to me, say whatever you want to me. It doesn’t affect me in any way at all. You’re not worth my time. But I’ll play along and pretend. If you want to talk, I’ll talk. If you want to yell, I’ll yell. If you want to fight, I’ll fight. But I really don’t care if I win or lose. I don’t care of you win or lose. I don’t care if I get hurt because I’ll heal. I don’t care if you say mean things about me or to me, because your words mean nothing to me. You don’t affect ME in any way at all. Want to start a rumor that I eat pancakes with my cat while standing on a toilet? Go ahead. Meaningless. Trying to get everybody to believe that I’m someone who can’t be trusted? Doesn’t matter. Did you succeed in getting people to think bad or wrong things about me? It’s ok – if they believe those things about me it doesn’t matter. Are you telling people my secrets that are true? It’s ok. *”If that’s what you want to believe”* is all I’ll say. Let them figure it out. Not worth MY energy or time to figure it out for them.
This is the most powerful method that you can do by yourself, where you need nobody else.
Let them think or do what they want. They’re not important enough for you to care.
This is of the Doesn’t Apply, Not Applicable, Your Argument is Invalid variety. In short, ”Enemy? What enemy? I don’t have any enemies. What is an enemy?”
d) FLOW: try to make them your friend
Co-operation, find something in common, act as if you want to be their friend, find things to do together. Say I’m sorry/Please/Thank You.
*This is how little kids solve it.* But, that solution can be very hard when you’ve already decided they’re not worth that kind of effort and don’t want to do it / lazy / don’t care / hate them too much. This answer can take a lot of work and dedication.
IMPLICIT, INTERNAL, NATURAL, AUTOMATIC, FROM THE IN TO THE OUT. UNCONSCIOUS, HABIT, FAST
e) WRITE IT DOWN: Make a DEAL with them.
Find out something they need that you can provide.
”If I do this for you, can you be my friend/just leave me alone”
Much easier to do. If it works, it’s a Verbal Contract. It’s a just like a written CONTRACT that you sign. And yes, you can have it in writing too.
EXPLICIT, EXTERNAL, FROM THE OUT TO THE IN TO THE OUT, CONSCIOUS, SLOW
f) AVOID. Neutral. No Talking Needed. ALONE.
This is a lot like a) but with nobody to substitute for you. This takes a lot of PHYSICAL creativity. Ducking around corners, hiding, scheduling your time so you DON’T meet up with them.
More permanent avoiding involves moving to a different place completely, making the POTENTIAL for meeting up with the enemy again LESS LIKELY.
g) Fight. My enemy is my best friend, in reverse.
Fend for yourself, with yourself, by yourself.
You have a lot of ways to fight. You can fight with your mind by thinking creatively how to win, you can use your mouth by verbally fighting, you can fight with your fists or feet or whole body or use tools or weapons.
Stand tall and proud and give it all you got if you choose the final option.
If keeping an enemy your enemy is important to you, then they deserve NOTHING but the BEST FROM YOU. Fight like you mean it.
Your enemy is your best friend, but in reverse.
I personally *prefer* NOT breaking any LAWS or doing things that you feel are WRONG. *HOWEVER*
That’s my opinion. *Breaking laws and doing what’s wrong is something that people do every single day.* It’s just as valid of a way to live your life as any. Mom and dad and teacher and police and court and religion and neighbors and family and friends may disagree with me saying that.. but it’s true. Of course you *can* do it.
If you couldn’t do it, nobody would be doing it.
I can’t breath in the middle of the Sun, but I can break a law. I just *choose* not to.
I *do choose* to do _what’s wrong_ sometimes.
Choosing right and wrong and good and evil and following laws or not is all CHOICE.
If you choose this option, you are likely to have to repeat it. Over and over and over again, in many different ways. Or perhaps the same way over and over again.
With f) and g) you are likely to repeat them over and over until your situation changes.
WRITTEN BY KENNETH UDUT 7/1/2013
I simply applied the theory I’m working on, but replaced those words with words that seem to have something do with enemies or bullying. I have no idea if this is good advice but I hope it helps.
Inspired by the fact that my original Enemy answer was FAR FROM COMPLETE but good. But main inspiration to actually TAKE the time to do it? @114989390721567982209